Here is a message to those who are stunned and outraged when people distance from them.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself and stop blaming others.
Take an HONEST look at YOUR behaviors. Ask for feedback and actually LISTEN when you get it. Decide whether you want to continue this pattern of destruction and loneliness. Decide if it's worth trying to change. But PLEASE, understand that by refusing to look at yourself and your behaviors that you are WILLINGLY choosing to be alone.
Those of us with self esteem expect to be treated with respect and kindness and won't tolerate anything less.