"Finding Yourself" is not really how it works.
You ain't a $10 bill in last Winter's coat pocket.
You also ain't lost.
Your true self is right there buried under cultural conditioning, other people's opinions, and inaccurate conclusions you drew as a kid that became your beliefs about who you are.
"Finding Yourself' is actually "RETURNING TO YOURSELF."
An unlearning, an excavation, a remembering who you were before the world got its hands on you.