Courage 101

It takes a SIGNIFICANT amount of Emotional Intelligence to practice courage. You KNOW you're scared. You KNOW there's a chance you could fall flat on your face BUT you take on the challenge anyway. The awareness of your fear is emotional intelligence. Your ability to practice self-control in order to do that scary thing you're afraid of doing? That's emotional intelligence. Practice that shit some more this month, Cutie.

Healing 101

When trauma happens, it can produce emotions that might stick with you for a long time after that trauma occurred.  If you don't take time to process how you felt when that trauma occurred, you may fall victim to "expressing" those same feelings during a situation that doesn't call for it.  Trauma can result in a ton of emotions so it's important that you focus on how your past trauma's may be affecting your ability to emotionally process current events. Let's work on that this month, Cutie.

Finances 101

How are you spending habits? Do you get the urge to go shopping when you're feeling sad or bored?  If you're not happy with your money situation right now and you haven't researched the link between your emotions and your spending habits, you may want to start doing exactly that this month! 

Accountability 101

You are responsible for your reactions to your emotions.  No, you don't get to be a Bitch to the people in close proximity to you just because your plans for the day didn't go as planned. YOU alone are responsible for how you feel and YOU alone are responsible for how YOU REACT to how you feel. 

JANUARY

Having High Emotional Intelligence (EQ) can help you communicate more effectively which can result in an improved ability to defuse conflicts, improve relationships, reduce anxiety and ultimately help you overcome life's challenges. Let's learn all that, Cutie!

*Our four areas of focus this month will be in these areas of development: 

  • Week 1 - Courage 101

  • Week 2 - Healing 101

  • Week 3 - Finances 101

  • Week 4 - Accountability 101

 

There are four full weeks in January. We suggest adding the following pages to your reading list to further support your personal development goals:

  • Week 1 - Self-Care 101

  • Week 2 - Self-Esteem 101

  • Week 3 - EQ 101

  • Week 4 - Femininity 101

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FEBRUARY

Achieving your goals is hard enough. Don't let a lack of Self-Awareness slow down your progress. When you are unwilling to see yourself as you are - shortcomings and all - you set yourself up to fall victim to those exact shortcomings.  Develop your ability to be real with yourself and get TF out of your own way, Cutie!

*Our four areas of focus this month will be in these areas of development:

  • Week 1 - Self-Care 101

  • Week 2 - Finances 101

  • Week 3 - Emotional IQ

  • Week 4 - Accountability 101

There are four full weeks of content for February. We suggest adding the following pages to your reading list to further support your personal development goals:

  • Week 1 - Courage 101

  • Week 2 - Self-Esteem 101

  • Week 3 - Femininity 101

  • Week 4 - Healing 101

Self-Care 101

How much downtime do you need to ensure you're refreshed and ready to go when it's time to GO?  Do you need 2 pedicures a month or 3? How many hours in your schedule do you need to dedicate to yourself?  Finding the answers to these questions is a great way to practice "self-awareness."

Finances 101

Spending money is fun...but it's SO MUCH MORE fun when you spend wisely. Being aware of your spending/saving habits as well as the ideas that you've learned over the years about money will help you provide an ENTIRELY new level of financial security & freedom for yourself.

Emotional Intelligence 101

You don't need to "control" your emotions in order to feel like you are being aware of them. Most times, it's just about "feeling" them and learning from them. It takes courage to feel your feelings because not all of them actually "feel" good. This month, try your best to simply acknowledge what you are feeling. That is a good place to start.

Accountability 101

When you become aware of your own bullshit AND make meaningful change as a result, you are practicing accountability. Make this a normal thing and watch how your life changes for the better.

 

Self-Esteem 101

How you feel about yourself effects how you see yourself.  If you think you're fat and sloppy then what do you think you're going to show to the world?  You gotta be REAL careful how you talk to yourself and even more careful about what you 'feel' about yourself. If you have toxic feelings about yourself, dig deep and find out why. 

Healing 101

Hurt people hurt people.  People fix their lips to say some of the most awful things about each other and the damage can take up decades or more to repair. Your feelings about yourself are effected by your accomplishments, encouragement from family and mentors; but it can also be negatively effected by 'hurt' people. If you can this month, identify any negative ideas you have about yourself and find out where those ideas were born so you can address them head on.

Emotional IQ

Your emotional responses can have a negative effect on your self-image if you aren't careful.  Think about a time where someone did something minor that sent made you so mad that you snapped on everybody in the room.  How did you feel afterward? How did they treat you? How did their treatment effect the way you see yourself? Do you understand now? 

Self-Care 101

Think about the last GOOD mani/pedi you had. How did that make you "Feel?" Ok, now think about the last time you had a relaxing head/hand/or back massage. How did THAT make you feel? How do you normally feel after taking care of yourself and your needs? Did it make you feel bad about yourself or good? 

MARCH

How you see yourself effects every aspect of your life.  If you truly don't believe that you're deserving of loving, healthy, long-lasting relationships there's a good chance you'll end up choosing relationships based on that narrative.  You've got to work on your self-image on a daily basis because life's challenges will force you to make choices that will ultimate define AND redefine you...some times on a day to day basis.

*Our four areas of focus this month will be in these areas of development:

  • Week 1 - Self-Esteem 101

  • Week 2 - Healing 101

  • Week 3 - Emotional IQ 

  • Week 4 - Self-Care

There are four full weeks of content for March. We suggest adding the following pages to your reading list to further support your personal development goals:

  • Week 1 - Courage 101

  • Week 2 - Accountability 101

  • Week 3 - Femininity 101

  • Week 4 - Finances 101

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APRIL 2021

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Mindset

How easy is it for your to consider new ideas & information? Do you get upset when you learn something that challenges a past belief? When learning anything new, frustration is to be expected but it should NEVER stop you from learning new information that could help enhance your quality of life. Be open to learning new things this week ESPECIALLY the kind that makes you feel cute!

Accountability

Practicing accountability SUCKS! But the one thing it can do for you is ensure that you don't play yourself!  When you own up to your bullshit, you own the responsibility of cleaning up said bullshit, too.  It's a Boss move no doubt, but there are an INFINITE number of alternative "Boss Moves" that don't involved you having to play yourself first. 

The Clique

You really need to be choosy about who you allow in your world. Here you are doing ALL the REAL WORK it takes to develop yourself, your reputation, and your business, right?  Why would you let just any ole body come along and throw you off your square?  Be selective AF about who you hold close to you.

Self-Image

​How you feel about your appearance? Be honest. You don't have to tell anyone but yourself since YOU are the one who has to walk around with these ideas in your head & heart.  Think back to moments where you felt capable, looked beautiful, and a vibe to experience. Think about all the things you did to accomplish that feeling & then start applying those acts in your current situation. Wash. Rinse. Repeat

AUGUST

Our theme this month will be "Accountability."  Accountability refers to an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility for one's actions.

When you are accountable, you understand and accept the consequences of your actions for the areas in which you assume responsibility.

Our 4 areas of focus this month will be in these areas of development: 

  • Week 1 - Accountability

  • Week 2 - Mindset

  • Week 3 - Self-Image

  • Week 4 - The Clique

There are four full weeks in August.

We suggest focusing on the following pages to further support your personal development goals:

  • Week 1 - Healing 101

  • Week 2 - Self-Care 101

  • Week 3 - Courage 101

  • Week 4 - Self-Esteem 101

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SEPTEMBER

Our theme this month will be "The Bag." 

You may have heard the AAVE saying: "Secure the Bag, Sis!"  This statement means that one should move in a way that ensures that her "bag" is SAFE and SECURE as possible.  Got a slick mouth?  Can't let little stuff go? Always gotta have the last word? Cause ALL of these "behaviors" have the potentially to jeopardize the security of your "bag." Let's learn how to NOT let that happen!

Our 4 areas of focus this month will be in these areas of development: 

  • Week 1 - Emotional IQ

  • Week 2 - Nutrition

  • Week 3 - Accountability

  • Week 4 - Self-Awareness

Write these focuses down somewhere that you can CLEARLY see them.  Every morning, read the focus for that week and (try to) connect it to a personal goal that YOU have that might be related to that focus.

There are four full weeks in September. We suggest reading the material found on the following pages to further support you and your personal development goals:

  • Week 1 - Healing 101

  • Week 2 - Self-Care 101

  • Week 3 - Accountability 101

  • Week 4 - Self-Esteem 101

Emotional Intelligence

There are 5 characteristics associated with Emotional Intelligence (EI) including:

 

  • Self-Awareness

  • Self-Regulation

  • Motivation

  • Empathy

  • Social Skills

 

All of these characteristics effect how you spend your money.  This week let's pay attention to these characteristics in our own lives to see if we're doing everything we can be doing to 'Secure The Bag.'

Nutrition

Wanna know a quick way to deplete your bag? Eating out.  Seriously.  If you're not on a budget and you eat out daily, you are poking HUGE holes in your bag. Again, if you haven't sat down and drawn up a budget that allows for takeout purchases you may be doing more harm to your bag than you think. 

Accountability

The first step in 'securing your bag' is coming to terms with how you handle the bag. If you aren't willing to hold yourself accountable for bad spending habits then you'll be doomed to practice bad spending habits. Be honest with yourself about how you spend your money. Let's just start there.

Self-Awareness

When was the last time you looked at your bank statement? When was the last time you truly paid attention to your spending habits? In fact, where did you learn your spending habits? Are they helping or hurting you? What did you learn/hear/understand about money when you were growing up? All these questions about your relationship to your money will reveal some strengths and weakness that you might need to address so that you can truly be in a position to 'secure your bag.'

 

Soul

What's eating you?  Because it might be effecting how you decide to spend your money.  Your spirit is the very essence of who you are. It is to your benefit to check in with yourself (and your spirit) on a regular basis to make sure unresolved trauma's, insecurities, and fears aren't influencing your decisions about how you spend your money.

Self-Awareness

How often do you pay attention to what you're eating? Being fully aware of what you eat as well as how much you eat will have positive effects on your diet & nutrition. We're not saying become obsessed with counting calories or grams of fat, but we are saying that paying attention to your eating habits will definitely pay off in the long run.

Accountability

Do you understand the relationship between what you put in your mouth and how you feel?  If you eat 5 bags of Hot Cheetos and get a debilitating headache as a result, will you hold yourself accountable for the headache you just caused by your food choice? Or are you going to ignore how your food choices are negatively effecting your health & well-being?  

Fitness

Diet & Fitness are the keys to Feeling AND Looking cute! Find an exercise (this could take YEARS so don't get discouraged) that you can get excited about! Skating, Dancing, Yoga...it really doesn't matter as long as it's building strength in your body (so that you can use your body whenever you need it) and nutrition in your cells! REMEMBER: Find something you like so on days you're not as motivated, your love for the exercise will keep you consistent so that you can achieve your fitness goals sooner rather than later.

OCTOBER

Our theme this month will be "Nutrition." 

Humans don't have a lot of control, but the one thing we can control is what we put into our bodies. Take a Bugatti for instance. Do you think Bugatti owners are just puttin' any old oil into their engine? Do you think they're just puttin' any old coolant in their engine? Hell! Do you think they just put any ole body in their cars?!? Hell naw! So if you truly value yourself, your goals, and your life, you'll do well to pick quality foods for yourself. 

*Our four areas of focus this month will be in these areas of development: 

  • Week 1 - Soul

  • Week 2 - Self-Awareness

  • Week 3 - Accountability

  • Week 4 - Fitness

 

There are four full weeks in October. We suggest focusing on the following pages to further support your personal development goals:

  • Week 1 - Healing 101

  • Week 2 - Self-Care 101

  • Week 3 - Courage 101

  • Week 4 - Self-Esteem 101

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NOVEMBER

Our theme this month will be "Soul." 

How you feel inside effects EVERY corner of your environment. The statement "Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe" implies that what's going on inside of you is connected to the things going on around you. You are the nucleus of your environment. If you want your environment to feel safe, peaceful, and nourishing then guess what you gotta cultivate on the inside? Let's work!

*Our four areas of focus this month will be in these areas of development: 

  • Week 1 - Self-Awareness

  • Week 2 - Self-Image

  • Week 3 - Mindset

  • Week 4 - Emotional IQ

 

There are four full weeks in November. We suggest focusing on the following pages to further support your personal development goals:

  • Week 1 - Healing 101

  • Week 2 - Self-Care 101

  • Week 3 - Courage 101

  • Week 4 - Self-Esteem 101

Self-Awareness

Do you  really 'listen' to yourself?  Self-Awareness can literally make or break your self-image. Ignoring your sleep, nutrition, and psychological needs can cause serious damage to all them #cute vibes you got going. It ravages your body leaving you feeling bad and looking worse. And if you feel bad all the time how could you POSSIBLY look #cute at any time? 

Self-Image

Whatever you believe about yourself on the inside will manifest itself on the outside. What you think about yourself will always show up in the choices you make, the clothes you wear, and the company you keep and ALL OF THESE THINGS effect your self-image. 

Mindset

We become what we think about.  If you think about becoming a successful Woman with a healthy work/life balance then that's what you'll eventually become.  If you see yourself as someone undeserving of any of that; or even worse, deserving of LESS THAN that, then you will become someone who deserves less than that. Consider the quality of your thoughts this month and make the necessary adjustments to put yourself on the right track.

Emotional Intelligence (EQ)

Your emotions are the message centers of your mind, body, and soul. Pay attention to how you feel before linking up with friends as well as how you feel after you leave them.  If you feel exhausted, drained, or filled with anxiety after leaving your group, there's a good chance your body is trying to tell you something about that group. Who you hang out with and where you go can effect your soul. So make sure you're paying extremely close attention to what your emotions are telling you.

 

Healing

If you do not heal what hurt you, you'll bleed on people who didn't cut you.  Whatever you don't repair you will repeat. Any unresolved trauma from your past will most certainly show up in your current relationships.  

Self-Care

There is a huge connection between the way you take care of yourself and how you care for others.  If you don't take your health seriously, what incentive do you have to take anybody else's health seriously?  Plus, exhibiting self-care is one of the easiest ways to establish how you expect to be treated by others.

Self-Esteem

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone with a low self-esteem? It's exhausting.  People with low self-esteem tend to need an insane amount of reassurance and they look for it in the people closest to them.  Do you want to be held responsible for building the self-esteem of others and if not, do you have any right to demand this of your relationships if you're not willing to do it yourself?

Femininity

Contrary to popular belief, Femininity has very little to do with what you wear and what you do; and has EVERYTHING to do with how you FEEL. Let's explore this area to see how tapping into this divine power can aid you in your relationships.

DECEMBER

Our theme this month will be "Love Lessons." 

Be it your Homie, Lover, or Friend; having toxic relationships isn't a cute look.  Let's learn how to elevate ourselves in such a way that it elevates our relationships. 

*Our four areas of focus this month will be in these areas of development: 

  • Week 1 - Healing 101

  • Week 2 - Self-Esteem 101

  • Week 3 - Self-Care 101

  • Week 4 - Femininity 101

  • Week 5 - Courage 101

 

There are five weeks in December. We suggest focusing on the following pages to further support your personal development goals:

  • Week 1 - The Bag

  • Week 2 - Accountability

  • Week 3 - Emotional IQ

  • Week 4 - Courage 101

  • Week 5 - Healing 101

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