FEBRUARY
"SELF-AWARNESS"
Achieving your goals is hard enough. Don't let a lack of Self-Awareness slow down your progress. When you are unwilling to see yourself as you are - shortcomings and all - you set yourself up to fall victim to those exact shortcomings. Develop your ability to be real with yourself and get TF out of your own way, Cutie!
*Our four areas of focus this month will be in these areas of development:
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Week 1 - Self-Care 101
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Week 2 - Finances 101
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Week 3 - Emotional IQ
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Week 4 - Accountability 101
Self-Care 101
How much downtime do you need to ensure you're refreshed and ready to go when it's time to GO? Do you need 2 pedicures a month or 3? How many hours in your schedule do you need to dedicate to yourself? Finding the answers to these questions is a great way to practice "self-awareness."
Finances 101
Spending money is fun...but it's SO MUCH MORE fun when you spend wisely. Being aware of your spending/saving habits as well as the ideas that you've learned over the years about money will help you provide an ENTIRELY new level of financial security & freedom for yourself.
Emotional Intelligence 101
You don't need to "control" your emotions in order to feel like you are being aware of them. Most times, it's just about "feeling" them and learning from them. It takes courage to feel your feelings because not all of them actually "feel" good. This month, try your best to simply acknowledge what you are feeling. That is a good place to start.
Accountability 101
When you become aware of your own bullshit AND make meaningful change as a result, you are practicing accountability. Make this a normal thing and watch how your life changes for the better.
FEBRUARY
"SELF-AWARNESS"
Achieving your goals is hard enough. Don't let a lack of Self-Awareness slow down your progress. When you are unwilling to see yourself as you are - shortcomings and all - you set yourself up to fall victim to those exact shortcomings. Develop your ability to be real with yourself and get TF out of your own way, Cutie!
*Our four areas of focus this month will be in these areas of development:
-
Week 1 - Self-Care 101
-
Week 2 - Finances 101
-
Week 3 - Emotional IQ
-
Week 4 - Accountability 101
Self-Care 101
How much downtime do you need to ensure you're refreshed and ready to go when it's time to GO? Do you need 2 pedicures a month or 3? How many hours in your schedule do you need to dedicate to yourself? Finding the answers to these questions is a great way to practice "self-awareness."
Finances 101
Spending money is fun...but it's SO MUCH MORE fun when you spend wisely. Being aware of your spending/saving habits as well as the ideas that you've learned over the years about money will help you provide an ENTIRELY new level of financial security & freedom for yourself.
Emotional Intelligence 101
You don't need to "control" your emotions in order to feel like you are being aware of them. Most times, it's just about "feeling" them and learning from them. It takes courage to feel your feelings because not all of them actually "feel" good. This month, try your best to simply acknowledge what you are feeling. That is a good place to start.
Accountability 101
When you become aware of your own bullshit AND make meaningful change as a result, you are practicing accountability. Make this a normal thing and watch how your life changes for the better.
HEALING
101
Feel Cute
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IDENTIFY HOW YOU 'FEEL.'
STEP ONE
First, you must get clear about what behaviors you believe to be a violation of your boundaries. This isn't about gaining control of the other person. This is about respecting and protecting your emotional well-being. FYI, boundaries aren't about controlling other people. Your boundaries are about protection for you, not control over them. Your boundaries protect you from emotional harm by identifying your non-negotiable emotional needs and limits in your relationships. Again. If anyone is using their boundaries to try to control YOUR behavior that is a huge red flag and information you need to pay attention to.
TIP - This is about understanding and validating yourself. Sometimes we don't know we need boundaries until we feel triggered. The trigger tells us right there in the moment 'Hey. I don't like this.' This is the time to make note of those feelings. Acknowledging your emotions is an act of emotional intelligent.
SIT WITH HOW YOU FEEL.
STEP TWO
This is where most people bail. Sitting with feelings other than joy can be extremely challenging for some people because we so rarely have healthy examples of how to do this.
TIP - If you DO choose to proceed that does not make you a 'bad person.' You can only run away from toxic people on the internet for so long. Desiring to know how to effectively respond to jerks who wish to rain on random people's parade is a honorable choice.
SAY HOW YOU FEEL
STEP THREE
Once you've decided to proceed take some time and try to understand the statement that was directed at you. If the statement was a clear cut insult, you have two options: 1. You can disengage/block/mute/leave the conversation; OR 2. You can proceed with a tasty clapback only YOU can provide, Cutie. This is purely your perogative. Either way, take a second and actually comprehend what is being said to you.
TIP - The crazy things about trolls is that OFTENTIMES their insults don't make sense or their riddled with punctuations and structural errors in the set-up of their sentences. Remember these things because you're going to need this info for the next step.
RESPECT HOW YOU FEEL.
STEP FOUR
This is going to be the most challenging step in this process. This is where MOST PEOPLE BAIL ON THEIR BOUNDARIES SO HOLD THE LINE IF YOU'RE IN THIS STEP! A big reason why this part is so bad is because of the newness of the boundary. Think about it. It's like changing your name, or changing your hair color. You have to give it some time before you get used to it. That said, this is where you hold yourself accountable with regard to protecting your boundaries. You've drawn a line in the sand, now respect that line that you drew in the sand. And if someone comes along and messes up that line, you just draw it again and reiterate your boundary. A healthy support system will help to encourage you to keep your word to the standards you've set for yourself and those closest to you. If you want to be respected you must FIRST respect yourself and that requires that you respect the things that come from you including the rules of engagement for having access to you and your Cute vibes.
TIP - Keep the net for your intel WIDE but keep it gentle. You don't want to cause harm, you just want to give them a hard time in their trolling efforts.
THE TEST
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THINK
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EMBRACE
APPLICATION
Elementary school conditions us that 'THE TEST' is the most important part of the learning process. Here at Cutie Booty Media, INC. we believe that the magic happens when you apply what you learn. Think about it. Think about a time where application of theory is important in your life. What do you expect from people in your life when you tell them about your needs. How would you feel if they failed to 'apply' the knowledge you shared with them and continued on ignoring your needs. How would that make you feel? Now you understand the importance of 'application.' In Cuties Classes, the 'test' is whether or not you will 'apply' what you've learned. Only then will you begin to learn about yourself and what YOU NEED to 'feel cute.' You just have to apply these methods FIRST. The question and test is...will you?